In this episode of Super Charge Sunday, our special guest Gwen McLeod, certified relationship coach and speaker, anger management, domestic violence specialist, and marriage officiant, shared with us great insights on developing and improving self esteem. As a domestic abuse survivor, she does training for those who have been subjects of abuse and assists them to overcome and lead a more productive life.
Here are some of the highlights of Gwen’s presentation emphasizing the five ways to improve your self esteem:
2. Become aware of your thoughts and your beliefs – reverse the curse – Speak positively and realistically and believe what you are saying. Change the way you speak and see yourself, being mindful of how you feel about yourself to avoid losing objectivity. It is a process that you have to work out and realize your self talk and make up your own mind. An affirmation alone is not enough, you have to actually believe what you are saying. Acknowledge what the motivations of your beliefs might be:
3. Challenging Negative or Inaccurate Thinking
4. Adjust your thoughts and beliefs – replace with accurate thoughts
5. Self care – look out for your wellbeing and do things that you enjoy and have fun
In order to develop strong self esteem, it is important to know the difference between being a person with low self esteem and inflated self esteem. Also realizing that a person with both low and inflated self esteem can end up being one in the same person based on underlying insecurities. Low self esteem can be the result of being angry, bitter, jealous, and envious and can cause people to behave in a passive aggressive manner. On the other hand, someone with inflated self-esteem has a superiority complex, is arrogant, conceited, excessively proud or vain and is most likely overcompensating for a deficiency. Scripture admonishes us to “humble yourself”. It requires taking responsibility for yourself and your insecurities and knowing that you can’t change anyone else but yourself. Self esteem issues can turn people into bullies or people pleasers.
In order to find a happy medium it is necessary to develop strong positive self esteem and to recognize the difference between confidence and arrogance. When you are confident and grounded in who you are, you can go into any room and be your authentic comfortable self without fear of any kind.
Here are are some signs of strong self esteem
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